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Can't find my old threads and I'm back where I don't want to be so it's time to pull this out, dust it off and get back to basics. I'm continuing to strvie to discover WHY I can get there but not stay there. It's been a life-long quest and darn it!, I'm still on it. Here we go again.
RESULT FOCUSED, PURPOSE DRIVEN, MASSIVE ACTION PLAN
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I am OBESE and my body is disgusting to me and to look at. My health is also suffering due to my OBESITY. I feel unlovable due to my weight and unable to love myself. I feel weak-willed, unattractive and useless. |
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Wear a size 6/8 and lose 119 unhealthy pounds of body fat & KEEP IT OFF. |
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Look and feel better so I love myself and restore my health. |
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1. Use 6WBMO and SMART Technique |
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2. Eliminate salt, sugar, and simple carbohydrate consumption |
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3. Exercise each day, however much, with 2 days off per week |
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4. Get rid of FAT clothes as I go down through the sizes |
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5. Take before, during and after photos |
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6. Chart progress, food consumption and exercise |
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7. Schedule my exercise and weight loss to make it a win/win situation |
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1. I am happy being fat |
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2. I can be fat and still be happy |
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3. Exercise is more painful than being fat |
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4. I’m not that fat |
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5. Exercise will hurt my back |
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6. Food is my emotional best friend |
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7. Exercising takes too much time and energy |
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8. Exercising won’t really help |
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9. People won’t like me if I’m thin |
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10. Men will like me in the wrong way if I am thin |
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11. I don't like who I am when I'm thin. |
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1. Exercise and proper eating are the only things that will keep me slim and healthy |
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2. If I don’t get fit and stay fit I will die young and won’t be able to see my son grow into the unbelievable man he is going to become |
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3. My back doesn't hurt when I exercise, and in fact feels better |
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4. Exercise feels GOOD |
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5. I am powerful and in control when I exercise |
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6. I am the master of my physical destiny, not genetics or food |
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7. I control food it does not control me |
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8. I am happiest when I am thin and in shape |
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9. Fat is inconsistent with my goals and vision for my life |
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10. People treat me with more respect when I am thin and in shape |
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11. You can NEVER be too thin or in too good of shape |
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12. Being fat and out of shape causes me severe emotional pain |
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5. Use exercise the same way I use cleaning, to help me think things through and plan and grow personally |
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Perspective is Everything
Failure is the opportunity to begin again more intelligently
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Persistence and Determination ALONE are Omnipotent
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Onward and Downward
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9/29/2007 11:42:44 AM
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Okay, the cat is out of the bag - I've been so ashamed [yes, I know, NBNS] and it's wrong but still I feel it. Why is it that I can be so good at some things and so seemingly useless at others? Anyway, the pity party started last night and it's over and it's a beautiful new day.
This is where I lost it before and I know I will again. I have made my decision, which means "to cut-off from all other possibilities", and I am determined. NO MATTER WHAT I will get to goal again and although I've said it before, this time I WILL stay there.
Frequent small meals really do work for me and I MUST take care of ME which means eating properly and regularly. Just because my business life is busy doesn't mean I don't matter. I matter! I am important! My health is important!
I will stop putting others needs before mine [yeah, right], okay, I'll get better at it. I'm a giver and a pleaser so that makes it a bigger challenge but I can do this because I love a challenge more than anything.
Just starting again with determination feels so much better.
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Perspective is Everything
Failure is the opportunity to begin again more intelligently
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9/29/2007 11:51:38 AM
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Pamela...I LOVE your determination and game plan. I re-started on July 23rd and had been doing well. This past week and a half I have been in such a hormonal funk that it has really kicked me in the rear. I couldn't muster up any enthusiasm for plan, for exercise, nothing. But as I feel the funk beginning to lift I am ready to get back in the game. I have some very nice buddies that I'm posting with but it never hurts to have an extra buddy or four to help you along the journey.
I'm off...the day's chores include cooking and gearing up for fresh lease on life and the plan. Happy losing and so glad you're back!
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9/29/2007 12:00:05 PM
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Success is the result of perfection, hard work, learning from failure, loyalty, and persistence.
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If you are going to achieve excellence in big things, you develop the habit in little matters. Excellence is not an exception, it is a prevailing attitude.
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A dream doesn't become reality through magic; it takes sweat, determination and hard work.
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9/29/2007 12:05:49 PM
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Hi and thank you!
The hardest part for me was allowing myself to take responsibilty here - where I felt like I let so many down. Once I did that it felt easier.
I haven't started the exercise thing again yet and it is my second biggest hurdle. May make it today tho' - one baby step at a time.
Happy losing to you and post here any time - you're always welcome. BTW - couldn't tell if your name is Cher or Jax? Sorry.
Great to have a new buddy!
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9/29/2007 12:13:44 PM
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LOL...it's Jax. It was hard for me to come back to the threads as well...kept avoiding them when I was off plan. But this is where I truly got the support and motivation I needed. The people here could support me in a way that no one else can because everyone here understands the program. I find that the more I am here, reading and posting, the more motivated and focused I become.
Thank God for this forum!
TTYL!
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9/29/2007 12:19:25 PM
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This is a war! This war we fight daily is comprised of small skirmishes and battles - some of which we win, some of which we lose. Regardless of the outcome of those daily trials, the object is to win the war against obesity. It will not be won on a single day, in a week, month or year. We must be ever vigilant for the enemy - and the enemy is ourselves.
This enemy is cunning - it talks to us and gives us rationale for eating the things that hurt us the most, it tells us that just a bite is okay and nothing will happen. We know the truth tho' and our enemy closes our eyes and our ears to that truth, all the while telling us that it's not a problem. IT IS A PROBLEM. WE HAVE A PROBLEM. That is why we are all here. We're not here for fun, frivolity, a vacation or companionship. Each of us came here out of some measure of desperation to regain control over that we to which we had surrendered.
Our enemy has many disguises. It comes as well-meaning friends and associates, innocent recipes, a gala, a business function, a trip to the store, a delicious smell. With all its faces and disguises we are NOT powerless against this enemy but don't get confused. Will-power is not enough - it takes persistence, determination, strategies and help from friends and family. It takes time and preparation and more determination. Still, this war CAN be won. Many have done it and many more will. I want to be one of them and I know you do too.
I pledge myself to the war and to the daily battles, large and small, and I WILL WIN.
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9/29/2007 12:26:25 PM
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Jax you are so right. That's why is was so hard to come back here.
Take a look at my gallery if you get a chance. I had done it all right - on plan, documented it, made it close to goal [and in danger of being too thin] had the photos, the progress, had it all down. I had so many opportunities and whether it was fear of success or my own desperate need to sabatoge myself is irrelevant. I took the steps, eyes wide open, fork in hand, and knowingly, put myself right back at the beginning.
There is something wrong underneath, where neither I nor anyone else can see, that makes me want to fail at keeping the weight off. I love to win and for some reason this is a game I try to fail at. But I will not quit.
So glad to meet you and have you as a buddy Jax.
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9/30/2007 10:51:29 AM
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Good morning, Pamela.
I remember seeing a post somewhere about why we fail on the various plans we're on. There seems to be some underlying issue that we need to deal with or heal. I'll have to try to remember where I saw it and then share it with you. Makes you really think...
Anyway, I did my grocery shopping yesterday and will be cooking a bunch of stuff this morning before I am of to the county fair here in L.A. going to watch a concert there tonight with my DH. I am ready to look this plan square in the eye tomorrow and hit it hard with ya.
So glad to have a new buddy to share this journey with.
Have a good one,
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9/30/2007 12:58:21 PM
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It's been a good week. No slips yet tho' last night was a real booger. I really seem to have problems on the weekends. It's a consistent issue with me and one I really have to work to overcome.
Another major issue is the exercise. It's my next area of concentration. Getting started is a major battle with me and then being consistent afterward. The fact that I lose weight on this program without it only adds to the problem.
I took step one and removed everything off of the treadmill and my total gym. They're in my face and waiting for me to take action. I hear them calling me right now...
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9/30/2007 1:02:28 PM
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Hi Jax!
I completely missed your post LOL. I was just rambling to myself and almost logged off when I realized your post was below mine. Sorry there - that's my blonde roots showing.
I too went grocery shopping - I have my food ready and my head ready. I'm in it for the long haul. And I'm glad you're here too!
Last time it took me a year to get it off. I'm hoping this time will be the same or better.
Here we go....
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This is what I learned about myself
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9/30/2007 3:12:16 PM
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When I have the urge to overeat, it feels like I can't think of anything else except food. I tend to respond by binging on my favorite foods.
Responding like this temporarily makes me feel content, like I'm filling an emptiness inside me. The relief I get from eating only really lasts about 1 hour, and I only feel partially relieved.
I usually regret overeating because afterwards I feel weak, and I feel this way because deep down I know I will not be able to lose weight if I continue overeating.
I could get some relief without overeating by doing something I enjoy, like playing a game of cards and surfing the internet.
The Old Way
I experience strong biological hunger and I want to eat so I can feel content, like I'm filling an emptiness inside me. Even though the relief I get from eating only lasts 1 hour and I feel weak afterwards, I still choose to eat.
The New Way
The new way involves remembering that I have another way to get relief, which is how I can begin to create new habits. I can by start to do this by playing a game of cards or surfing the internet.
The emptiness I feel is not hunger for food, it is hunger for love, companionship and approval.
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10/6/2007 7:48:58 AM
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Well, here I am, another week down and feeling terrific. I've stayed on plan with nary a slip even tho' there were weak moments and temptations.
I'm feeling stronger and more in control every day. Feels so good and I get the added bonus of watching the numbers fall.  I always liked that best of all.
I'm 10 lbs. down overall - only 10 lbs. you ask? - yes, but they're 10 hard fought and won lbs., that represent more than just weight. They represent control, self-esteem and momentum. I love them and I'm so glad to see them go.
It was a brutal work week so that's all I want to say for now. I need some me time like crazy.
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10/11/2007 12:49:38 PM
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Just stopping by to say Hi, and I too need to restart,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,
I'll be in Canada for 2 weeks. I'll check back when I get home and be ready to get the pounds off again................I hated losing my 110 Avie.................. (you play, you pay) I don't like me either!
See you soon................
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10/19/2007 6:36:22 AM
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Hi Pamela and Jax,
I was reading posts when I found you guys! and I had to respond. I have been obese all my adult life! Food was all things to me at one time! I've managed to start this jounery to health and lean body with the help of the 6WBM, I am so thankful for it!
It would be good to have all the sopport I can get[ I seem to need more than most people!] I'm headed toward goal, and it seems harder now!!! I would love to hang out with you guys! I too post on other threads and this term I will be a AAR at NBU. On this jounery you get so lonely!!! I find if I stay connected, I'm able to keep my game plan together!!!
Lets get some ground work done before the hoildays roll in! We can be a lot thinner by x-mas!
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10/19/2007 4:35:25 PM
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Hi ladies, I am in the same boat as you and need the support and motivation. I feel mad that I have such an addiction to sugar and I need to give it up. I have but it is so hard and some times I just get mad that I actually have too. But in order to lose this weight I need to give it up and leave it alone.
Madmcd, Do you remember me. We were on a thread along time ago. I lost you for awhile. Nice to see you again. Your pictures were great.
Pamela- Your pictures really showed how you lost. You can do it again. Just keep trying.
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10/25/2007 3:15:12 PM
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Hello everyone! Wow, thought no one was stopping by and so I go and get a kidney stone and Bammo! - eveyone stops by. This is great.
Detroitlady - I think we've been posting? on a thread together but not sure. So glad you stopped by. 
Carol - What a delight to meet you and I love your "perspective" line. My life is in the Lord's hands, period. Please stop by anytime to say hi.
Marsha - Last but certainly not least :). I'm seriously jazzed to see you again and to have you post here. Missed you lady. As for the avi - as you can see, altho' I've laid everything out for all to see I haven't reached the point where I can let the avatar go. It was a hard road to come back this far and I need a few more steps to let go all the way. Kind of like a 12-step program to come back. Hah! 
Irix. - are u still in? hope so girl, miss u too. let me hear from u if u catch this post.
Okay, here's what's going on. I've been ill [so what's new] but I'm back on track with my health and back on track with the program. I intend to start a motivation thread again and all are welcome. Trying to round up the old gang [and new ones please] from my former challenge.
I've had positive response from those I've contacted, so I plan to start the thread soon. Like maybe a week or so. Stop by here for the link to the challenge and the stats page. I should also have it in my signature once it's going on. I find I do better with a group environment to help me stay focused. I miss my friends too and this will keep all of us in touch.
We can all renew our weightloss committment together and stay on goal. I can't wait!
Let's make this a LOSERS Christmas all around!
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im here hie everyone smiles.
how are you all?
hugz Pamela
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10/25/2007 4:52:28 PM
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hey there girl great to see u
all things equal we'll start in about a week. i'll get everything set up and then we'll rock. 
miss u so much
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Hi Pam. I was on a few of your challanges. Remember me, I live pretty near you in Milton.. Good to see you back. Unfortunately I've gained all my weight back. I'm just trying to get myself back on plan. Now we're on vacation. Will be back home a week from Sunday. Don't you love the cool weather? Good Luck.
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